Feel like a crazy!

[Hailstorm]

I am new to this forum and feel a little silly. I have always thought my irrational fear of sick was just me being uptight, fussy and almost down right pathetic. But after my boyfriend told me I should look into getting help I have realised it is a real phobia and I am not over reacting or uptight. I get so scared of sick I avoid it at all costs. My boyfriend is prone to being sick when he has had 'too much to drink'. Now to me with this fear one could be too many! But it has got so bad that he even mentions he is going out and I get instantly scared with knots in my stomach and tightness in the chest. I am constantly trying to get hold of him while he is out so I can gauge how bad he is or whether I think he going to be sick. He has to sleep on the sofa and I can't go downstairs until I know he is ok. He is really supportive and understands that I am scared of it. But I wish I was ok with him going out, I feel like a crazy gf! He used to think I didn't trust him when he went out it which i suppose is a little bit true but only in the way I don't trust him not to be sick. I guess I am waffling on so much because I feel as though I need to feel like I am normal and that there is a way to make me comfortable with this. I have fears I will never be over this and I won't be able to help any children I hope to have in the future. But at the moment it causes a lot of tension in our relationship. Like I said I don't know what I am expecting from posting this and I feel awfully exposed! But I hope I can hear of people with similar problems and advice on how to deal with this. Thank you for taking the time and reading my novel of a post! X

[Jess44246]

It is great that he is understanding and supportive. Because of that, you are in a good relationship. I know it's hard, but if he seems to be feeling not all that bad after going out then try to trust him not to v*. Let him know again how much it bothers you when he is ill and have him tell you if he does or does not think he will v* once he gets home. If he says he's okay, then trust him to me with you. It will make you feel more comfortable with him.

For future reference, you'll get much faster replies in the private general forum.

[Afdpt]

I completely know how you feel. I always get nervous when my husband is going to be drinking and he's not even prone to getting sick afterward. I've only known it to happen once but I still get so anxious whenever he does it.

I think it's good that he's understanding with you. The best thing is for you to just be open with him about how you feel about certain things. Like I've told my husband something along the lines of, "Whenever you are sick if you really need me I will of course be there for you however please try to understand that it terrifies me to be around others who are getting sick. So don't be offended or take it personally if I seem to be keeping my distance." I let him know that I try my very hardest to be supportive and to help him if he's sick but just request that he's also understanding and supportive of the struggle it puts me through. We work through it together.