Hi Kate!
First of all, welcome! You will find this to be a place where you WILL NOT be teased about your fear, and I am sad but not that surprised that you have been in the past. I too have had this phobia since the age of six (now 31), and hid it as best I could from everyone until I was about 23 and found this site and discovered that I wasn't a freak and wasn't alone. The amazing thing is that you are actively trying to fix the problem. I didn't do that until 2015 when I had a child and my fear got even worse. So great job! This phobia is so unique and different, and each person is lightly different, so the approach to therapy can vary depending on the case. EMDR has been found to be helpful in many cases where a specific traumatic event caused the phobia, but it is usually recommended to be combined with CBT and gradual exposure therapy. I would recommend reading the material on Anna Christie's website, emetophobiahelp.org, especially her story of overcoming the phobia and how she helps other emetophobes now as a therapist. She also has compiled a list of therapists in all different regions of the world, I'm sure there are some in NY.

The first therapy I ever tried was EMDR in 2015. It actually did help me temporarily, for about a year. But then my phobia gradually came back so I knew I had to try a different approach. Now I am seeing a psychologist who has successfully treated emetophobes before, and doing CBT and gradual exposure therapy. It is too soon to know if it is working, and it is HARD, but I know I have to keep trying. I have been at the pits of despair over this seemingly inescapable condition, but I KNOW that it is curable. So I have hope. And there is hope for you too! Feel free to PM me anytime!
-Kristin