Living with someone

[ducky-go-lucky]

Hi,



I'm freaking out.

I'm moving in with my bf soon, and I'm really terrified.



If I feel at all nauseated, I HAVE TO be alone, or I'll die (I don't exaggerate )

That way the feeling is a bit easier to handle.



I keep having these dreams that I v*, and my bf's there, or that he'll
v* and I can't get out. Or that his friends are over and they're
drinking and v* all over the walls.

I know these are just dreams, but I'm really scared they might come true.



I've lived alone for almost two years now, and it has been so easy.

My parents are alcoholics, and my mother used to drink herself in a
v*condition all the time. So I had to face my phobia every single
weekend.

That was awful.



I love my bf so much, and living with him is going to be great.

He almost never v*, so that's not a problem.

But eventually he is going to. And so am I.



Does any of you have this obsession of being alone when feeling sick?

How do you cope, if you are living with someone?



I would really appreciate any answers, so I could stop freaking out.

Thanks.

[kel12347]

I moved in with my boyfriend almost 2 years ago. He's gotten sick twice since we moved in together, both alcohol related. I won't lie and tell you they weren't rough nights for me, but you get through them, I promise. The first time it happened, I had to take my puppy in the car and go for a ride, just to get away from things for a bit. If it does happen, do things that are very comforting to you...take a bath, read a book, cuddle up in blankets, watch a movie. It's not easy, but you can cope, I promise.

[crystalmom]

I like to be alone when having a panic attack as well. Although, I guess that is not possible all the time. I think it's better to at least be around someone you love and accepts you, than strangers though, even though they probably never know that one is occuring. You'll be just great...and your bf will be too! Assuming he knows....he will be great comfort and solace to you. Have fun, and just let life take you!





Crystal

[ducky-go-lucky]

Hi,



My bf knows about my phobia, and he's been really supporting and understanding

He knows about my concerns about this.



I think that if I have to v* around someone, I would prefer that it would be him.



We've also been discussing about possibility that if either of us
caught THE virus, he would go and sleep at his parents' place for a
while.



I thinks that we'll be fine

I just needed some assurance.

Thanks

[suzy.o]

Yep, I definately need to be on my own when I panic,I feel they will make my panic worse or my n. It totally agitates me even if they are trying to help, I need to concentrate on getting through my panic and dont want disturbing. Its my coping mechanism. Explain that to your boyfriend, that you need peace to cope with an attack, He will understand that you need to run into a different room for a few mins, Its not as if you have to hit him or take charge of the remote oranything to calm down is it? so he should count his self lucky!. giggle.

[calx]

I'd rather be alone during a panic attack too. For me the best way to
end the attack quickly is to do something that focuses my thoughts
elsewhere. If all you think about is panicking, how scared you are, and
that you are going to die (you're not) then you are just fueling the
panic attack. So like kel said, do something that is comforting to you
or just try to empty your mind of all thoughts and take some deep
breaths.



Good luck! [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]