Wow, what a thread! I have to put my thoughts down on this. As most of you know I just had surgery, during those times, I was out of comission. I know my boyfriend "got off" during those times as well as he should. Most people feel a urge to gratify themselves, and who am I to tell him it hurts my feelings, or it's unhealty. What is right for them may not be right for me, but if he has a need to gratify himself, I have no right to stop it.


As for what gumdropper said, I couldn't agree more! At least your man feels very comfortable and open enough to express himself.I once caught my bf doing it, and I had two options, question him and be hurt, or join in the fun and that is exactly what I did. Masturbating is natural, and I don't think I have a right to tell someone what they can and can not do with your body. Plus, I am sure he is just thinking about you when he is doing it. As for porn, I like it, we use it all the time. It is just a visual to get the job done. Men are visual creatures.


Everyone here has different views on porn and masturbation, and itsnot fair to cut anyone down on what they like or dislike. If lil trooper is hurt than she should express that to her boyfriend. That is the only advice that she should take.