I have a dilemna....sort of....I have met someone online (through yahoo personals) and we have been chatting online every night for quite awhile now. I have never mentioned my phobia or panic attacks or the problems they cause me in my everyday life. (such as why I am on disability, etc). I'm scared that if I tell him too soon, he will think I'm nuts and run as fast as he can. I am scared that if I don't tell him, he will be mad when he finds out. I also don't feel safe or secure around anyone that doesn't know about my problems because if they don't know, I'm more nervous about panicking around them...at least if they know, they understand if I get stuck in the bathroom or if I panic, etc.
So when is the right time to tell him? I have hinted around like I've asked him if he had any strange fears or phobias (and of course he didn't and he didn't ask me)...I also asked him if anyone every panicked around him and I made a joke or two about me panicking but I'm pretty sure he didn't catch on. I'm really big on honesty but I know that you aren't supposed to tell a new person everything about your life. Since I don't date, I'm not sure what is the smart thing to do that is still honest.
Any advice?
Thanks
Kathleen