are you emetophile

[angelgirl]

I'm not an emetophile but it is true to say that the more recovered I become, the more...fascination I have with it. For example, I will re-read chapters in books. I will read the 'graphic' posts here. Why? I don't know. I still don't like to vomit myself, I still stress about noro but then again, it's 'safe' to read about it, cos I can't catch it.

Is the same true of those who are emetophiles? Is it because it's 'safe' watching videos? Presumably if you engage in practices it's a deliberate act so no chance of catching it? Are the feelings the same if someone is really ill?

Just curious because contrary to what some have said, I actually think that emetophobia and emetophillia are very similar - after all, we are all obsessed over vomit.

[bananas]

I'm not an emetophile but it is true to say that the more recovered I become, the more...fascination I have with it. For example, I will re-read chapters in books. I will read the 'graphic' posts here. Why? I don't know. I still don't like to vomit myself, I still stress about noro but then again, it's 'safe' to read about it, cos I can't catch it.

Is the same true of those who are emetophiles? Is it because it's 'safe' watching videos?

I think you are on the right track. A lot of emetophiles are current or former emets and a lot of us use emetophilia to make us less nervous about vomiting. It's a coping mechanism. It's safe for me to fantasize sexually about a sexy partner throwing up, but I am always very upset by real vomit. For me it is only about fantasies. That's how it is for most emetophiles too. Only a few claim they have really vomited for a sexual turnon and I think most of them are making it up. I feel more relaxed after I have been turning myself on with an emetophile fantasy and my emet is less bothersome then.

[abbi]

100% nooooooooooooooooo

[hopefulmonster]

No... but if my boyfriend is feeling in any way ill (even just general 'headache' or anything) and goes to sleep, I'll be downstairs and rather than put on headphones and listen to loud music and ignore any noises, I do HAVE to obsessively listen to every little noise. No idea what difference it makes, and you'd think I'd rather be oblivious, but I HAVE to know. Definitely not aroused in any way whatsoever though!! But the 'fight or flight' mechanism always kicks in and I get adrenaline pumping through like you wouldn't believe, usually a few minutes before a panic attack *rolls eyes*

[Kazzia]

Interesting thread. I am certainly NOT an emetophile - I'm 100% phobic.

However, it is odd. About a year before I became emetophobic I was 7 and in the playground at school. A boy in the year below me suddenly v* everywhere and for some reason I was fascinated. I had to watch everything - I was even excited and remember running over to some of my friends to say 'he's been sick! Come and watch!' or something like that. I even remember during that time of being 6 and 7 years old incidents of other children in class feeling n* and I had to know everything and see what was going on...the opposite to now.

V* just never bothered me then as it was always something that happened to someone else. A few months after the playground incident I did v* on a rough ferry crossing, but it was quick and brief. That said I didn't like it and refused to go on ferries after that, although I wasn't emet from it. That was to come a year later...

[gumdropper1]

I wasn't emet from it. That was to come a year later...

And???....

[barbiegirl]

Definitely NOT an emetophile. But I can see how the sense of panic and horror can be misinterpreted as a coping mechanism.

[dancinintherain]

I'm Definately not aroused by vomit. At all. Period. Though I do have some thoughts on emetophilia, i wont share. I think others on this thread have been a litte rude. I thought we were sposed to support eachother? We all have issues.

[Francesca]

No, but this is very interesting because one group of people are terrified of vomiting and another group become sexually aroused by it. Two polar opposite reactions to the same thing. So the "thing" - in this case vomit - is not the problem; how we choose to think about it and react to it is the problem.

So, instead of spending every waking moment trying to find a way to NOT vomit, maybe I should working on convincing myself that if it happens, I can and will handle it, and while it won't be pleasant, and nobody WANTS to do it (well, maybe the emetophiles do haha), but it's not the end of the world.

Thank you for posing this question!!

[leeannc28]

I was totally unaware that emetophilia and emetophobia were related in any way. That's actually kind of fascinating to me. How ironic it is.

[FroshGrl]

For me, emetophilia just means that I have different fantasies. I have the usual kind of fantasies that most girls have, but I also have fantasies about cute guys v*. In my fantasies he's down by the toilet and it's coming up and I'm doing what I can do to help. I've only seen a guy v* for real once and it's not something I'm craving but I wonder. My emet is really bad right now and I would be terrified about being around someone who's v* for fear that I would catch it myself, but if I knew it was something I couldn't catch then I don't know. How I feel about emet and v* is very confusing as a result of these fantasies. I worry about having a bad feeling in my stomach, but thinking about someone else having the bad feeling can give me a good feeling someplace else. I wouldn't wish it on someone but I'm glad there are guys who don't think it's such a bad thing and even make videos of themselves doing it.

[hairyfairy]

Absolutely not! in fact, if I saw someone I liked V, I would more than likely want nothing to do with them ever again! But here`s an odd thing, my favourite actor isTerence Knox, ( Dr Peter White, in the medical drama St Elswhere), & I find myself wondering how many times he`s Vted in his life. Strange, or what?

[bananas]

^ Hairyfairy, I think you are a beginning emetophile. Thinking about attractive ppl vomiting is where it starts. Then comes fantasizing about them.

[turbokinetic]

^ Hairyfairy, I think you are a beginning emetophile. Thinking about attractive ppl vomiting is where it starts. Then comes fantasizing about them.

Once this started to "show thorugh" my anxiety, it wasn't long I was well on the road to recovery.

So, it CAN be a balancing force that helps you get over the phobia.

Just my opinion!
David

[SaSa]

Oh dear god, no! O_O

[FroshGrl]

hairyfairy, I agree with bananas and turbo that you're an emetophile too. It is significant that you have thought about the spewage of your favorite hunky male actor (although I dunno who he or St. Elsewhere is). If you said your girlfriends or the lady who cuts your hair, that would be one thing, but you don't need to tell anybody here what kind of feelings a stud actor causes a girl. Accept your emetophilia and enjoy it!!! It's the only good thing that's come out of emetophobia for me.

[turbokinetic]

hairyfairy, I agree with bananas and turbo that you're an emetophile too. It is significant that you have thought about the spewage of your favorite hunky male actor (although I dunno who he or St. Elsewhere is). If you said your girlfriends or the lady who cuts your hair, that would be one thing, but you don't need to tell anybody here what kind of feelings a stud actor causes a girl. Accept your emetophilia and enjoy it!!! It's the only good thing that's come out of emetophobia for me.

Oh cool! I like your colorful writing style!

I don't see much 'good' coming out of a phobia. However the CHANGES MADE TO OVERCOME the phobia definately do have some really positive side effects!

Sincerely,
David

[hairyfairy]

I definately don`t believe that I could be an emetophile, because I wouldn`t be tusned on by an attractive man Vting, I would be repelled, & most likely go off him fast!

[Jill in Apartment 413]

Did I mention this in my one post before? It seems relevent now though.

Lisa Edelstein is like my hot rod mama and she vomited in an episode of House and for a split second I was like, "AWESOME!" LOL! I don't think I got aroused but it was interesting....

[Spizza]

I hope you don't mind me butting into your little corner of the internet, but I have been reading this thread with interest and thought I'd add what I can to it.

Firstly, let's get one thing out of the way. I am not in any way an Emetophobe and am definitely an Emetophile. I found this thread searching for information about my issue and this is one of the few reasoned discussions about it i've ever seen.

I won't re-tell the story here (unless people are interested) but I can pin-point the exact moment in my childhood that made me this way and for me it is very much a "loss of control" thing, both when it happens to me and when it happens to a girl. For me the turn on is the build up followed by the act, just the act itself has little interest to me and I'm definitely not interested in the "product" afterwards (but not repulsed by it either).

My issue causes a lot of confusing feelings inside me, while I cannot help but be turned on by it, it leaves me feeling extremely dirty and guilty afterwards. I've never (knowingly) met anyone else with the same issue so I don't know if I should try to control it somehow or just try to accept it.

Anyway, that's that off my chest. This is only the second time I've ever admitted to it so it has been quite liberating. I'll keep an eye on this thread and if anyone has any questions then I'll do my best to answer them completely honestly. If not, thank you for reading and I hope you all find a way to deal with your side of the coin.

[turbokinetic]

I hope you don't mind me butting into your little corner of the internet....

The more the merrier!

.... I am not in any way an Emetophobe and am definitely an Emetophile. ....causes a lot of confusing feelings inside me, while I cannot help but be turned on by it, it leaves me feeling extremely dirty and guilty afterwards....

Glad you chimed in here! I've spent alot of time thinking about both sides of this. I am a mostly recovered emetophobic, who has always had a fascination with vomiting since before I was phobic about it.

One of the first changes I noticed when getting over the phobia was that I started to have more emetophilic thoughts here and there.

Instead of letting this make me feel dirty and wrong; I just accept these feelings and move on.

Later,
David

[Spizza]

I can't reply to your PM yet as I don't have enough posts. Please excuse me while I resort to a small amount of spam...

[turbokinetic]

I can't reply to your PM yet as I don't have enough posts. Please excuse me while I resort to a small amount of spam...

Lol that's funny. I didn't know they restricted PM's!

You might go in the test forum and make the number of posts instead of clogging the active forums.

David

[Spizza]

I'm posting genuine replies to threads, but they are not the most insightful things I've ever written. I didn't know there was a test forum!

(I'll head there now!)

[Spizza]

Where is the test forum btw?

[Spizza]

Turbo, YHM :-)

[gumdropper1]

Spizza: I suggest going to the forum called "text games" where all we do is type random things (sometimes just numbers.) It is a good place to go if you want to run up your post count.

Doug

[PearlescentAngel]

After reading this thread a couple times I've started to wonder if emetophobia and emetophilia are in any way related. It would make a certain amount of sense. As emetophobes, we are absolutely OBSESSED with vomiting. I know I even get morbidly curious when I hear anyone talking about it. When I was younger...way younger...little....I had emetophilic thoughts. I didn't know that was what they were at the time, but playing barbies with my friends or even at home by myself and playacting vomiting caused some weird feelings in me that I didn't understand, but I do now.

All I can say is that if getting over emetophobia turns me into an emetophile, I can live with that. In fact, I'm certain I'd prefer it.

[hairyfairy]

I recently remembered an incident from my schooldays. I was walking past the toilets, & there was a big crowd of kids hanging around inside & outside, I asked what was going on, & someone told me that there was a girl in there who was feeling sick. I thought, why would anyone want to watch someone V. I was`nt actively emetophobic then, but it struck me as just plain freaky to treat something like that as entertainment, & I thought those girls who went to watch were just nasty, I mean, did they stop to think about the feelings of the girl who was ill. I`m sure no-one would want to be stared at such a time.

[Jill in Apartment 413]

To Pealescent Angel: When getting over a relationship I was always told that the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Maybe that says something about the extremem emetophobes and the emetophiliacs. We are all obsessed with it, and though I have come to understand emetophilia better, I will never be on that same level. As I have stated, though, I do not condemn those people at all. I find it extremely interesting and wish I could understand it fully at times. I think I'll PM you Spizza if you don't mind!