OT: Husbands and Computers

[skinnyme]

Just wondering if anyones husband or SO looks at porn on the internet? I know many of them must and how does it make you feel? It does not bother me at all as long as its not an obsession. I dont know why I started this thread but sometimes i like to go off topic for a while and not think about sickness and V**. Please chime in if interested. Thanks

[terified girl]

When we first got our computer, my bf was thrilled that he could look at porn and did so often, after a while it got on my nerves, but then he got bored, and now he hardly ever goes on.


Watching it is a different story though!!!! LOL

[helsbels]

I don't think my bf has time to go online to look at stuff.. he does have a collection of videos though, which he swaps with his mates... they're like kids, I don't think they'll ever grow out of the fascination! Doesn't bother me though.. I don't have an opinion either way

[princessmel]

Want to hear my opinion on that? My problem with my fiance/husband has been going on for three years now. He goes in the computer room and locks the door which I absolutely hate. Actually, we got into itlast night about it. He said he locks the door b/c he doesn't want me barging in if he's you know whating in there. I don't know if I should believe him or not. It drives me insane. I hate that computer so much. Last night, I told him if this continues, then I'm leaving. I'm either going to delete some files on it, so it won't work or I'm going to throw it out the window and smash it to pieces with a hammer. He said he looks at pictures of me while he does you know what. Whatever. I know he looks at pictures of me b/c he's taken a lot of me and has a lot of albums, but this is getting ridiculous. I guess I have to live with it.[img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[ontariogirl]

princessmel, that isn't right what your husband is doing. Dr.Phil would go nuts on him. Have you ever back track on that computer to see exactly what sites he is going on?

[donna1216]

My husband is a porn addict--I've actually considered writing to Dr. Phil about it!! All of Greg's friends think I'M hot, but my husband thinks skanky girls with VD are hot. It makes me crazy--I've given birth to 2 of his babies and am getting big, fat and insecure with this 3rd one, I deserve more respect and so do you!!!

[princessmel]

Who's Dr. Phil? I never heard of him. He said he whacks it in there and doesn't want me to barge in on him. Yes. I have backtracked on the computer and found some stuff, but what I really need is his passwords for his usernames. There's no way I can get those. Unless I buy Spector Pro or something, but I know he would be able to tell something's going on. He's real smart with the computer. My dad knows how to delete some files, so the computer won't run anymore. I threatened that with him last night, and he threatened to do something with my car. Why my car? Yeah. It's my baby, the car I've always wanted, I take care of it, and pay $350/mo for it. Why wouldn't I take care of it? But why my car? It gets me from point a to point b. I'm going to throw the computer out the window. In my opinion, I think he's talking to some girl on it from the gym, but I can't bust him on that b/c I need his passwords.

[matmysunshine]

OK here is my input on this, Hubby use to look at porn, both on the net and the TV, but lets just say it almost ruined our marriage. I will give the short story, (Im at wk) When I got prego, I had a threatened Miscarriage, that sent hubby in a panic, he would not touch me, this I understood, but when the Dr gave me the all clear for intimacy he was never in the mood, so he said, this went on till I gave birith to my son, and 2 months later, this is when I found out that, when I was asking for the attention, he was not in the mood, because he was wacking it and watching that crap. I had never been so Hurt, we went to threapy and all , I still am hurt, and distrust hubby sometimes.. I know men are men and do that from time to time, but to ignore me and get hand job, and see other woman.. THAT TICKED ME OFF, so I am alittle sensitive to the subject.. We deserve so much more, then they give us sometimes. Then they wonder why some woman run off and get attention from other men... Oh well.. thats my story Christy

[skinnyme]

It's funny how us women do not need to look at porn and to tell you the truth it really disgusts me. I would much rather see a nice love scene in a movie to get me" In the mood". I think this is just another thing to pass of to men as "normal".

[princessmel]

Who knows what it is with men. In my opinion, they are all pigs. I don't need to get off on porn either. I think it's disgusting. A nice love scene gets me in the mood also.

[kmarie]

My husband sued to look at it..and he would delete the history and stuff..but i know more then him whenit comes to computers and found it....its not a huge deal with me...i know my husband has videos as well...again..not a huge deal...hes not obsessed or anything..if he didnt become i might be mad..yes..i would be mad..


i think its because i know my husand is attarcted to me...and loves me...and I have no doubt about that....

[charzysbebe]

Who's Dr. Phil? I never heard of him. He said he whacks it in there and doesn't want me to barge in on him. Yes. I have backtracked on the computer and found some stuff, but what I really need is his passwords for his usernames. There's no way I can get those. Unless I buy Spector Pro or something, but I know he would be able to tell something's going on. He's real smart with the computer. My dad knows how to delete some files, so the computer won't run anymore. I threatened that with him last night, and he threatened to do something with my car. Why my car? Yeah. It's my baby, the car I've always wanted, I take care of it, and pay $350/mo for it. Why wouldn't I take care of it? But why my car? It gets me from point a to point b. I'm going to throw the computer out the window. In my opinion, I think he's talking to some girl on it from the gym, but I can't bust him on that b/c I need his passwords.

You know, if you want to find out what your hubby is looking at on the computer, just click on the "start" button on your computer, and click "search" or "find" (one of the 2...lol) and type up JPG or BMP. (try them both) That will bring up ALL of those types of picture files on your computer, and you can view them that way by clicking on them.


My ex-husband looked at porn on his lap top and "choked his chicken" which really ticked me off! I found the way to see what he was looking at. I then found 975 nasty pic files in the cache memory of the computer and deleted all of them. ICK!! [img]smileys/smilies_11.gif[/img] Charlotte

[holly18]

i found porn on my boyfreinds computer a while ago. it was in his history and addresses he typed in the address bar. he denied it and said it was all pop ups. i found some pictures saved also, he said they were sent to him by a freind. this went on for a while, each time he dening it and making up stupid excuses. for example he said the computer downloaded some videos all by itself. finally i got the truth out of him and i maade him reformat his pc. i do random checks now. i think porn is sick and disgusting especially since we are in a long term relationship. in my opinion, fantasizing about other women in that way is cheating. im a bit over weight and feel so ugly, he tells me im not, but all the pictures he was looking at were of skinny girls. how does that make me feel?

[nicki]

my ex-bf used to watch porn and do you know what and it really upset me, particularly as he wouldnt be intimate with me. I think he got some kind of kick about rejecting me and then telling me what he done to satisfy himself if you catch my drift. It hurt me a great deal, i felt like i wasn't good enough for him.

[jptk]

Who knows what it is with men. In my opinion, they are all pigs. I don't need to get off on porn either. I think it's disgusting. A nice love scene gets me in the mood also.

Hey, were not all pigs,[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img] ok most are for sure, but not all.

[ontariogirl]

Way to go Charlotte!!! Dr. Phil's has 30 years of experience in psychology and human functioning. He started on the Oprah show, he was on there once a week and then with help from her he has his own show. His favourite saying "Get Real". I really can't stand the man but watch sometimes. He doesn't think it is right for husbands to do this, its time to "Get Real", and he would say what you aredoing is wrong!! It isn't right what he is doing. So gross!

[skinnyme]

I just have one thing to add: DR. PHIL ROCKS!

[mitch4133]

My boyfriend has a wonderful collection of porn movies. I sometimes see that he looks at it on the internet too. It really used to bother me, but not so much anymore. After reading all of these posts, it seems most men do like to look at porn, and though it disgusts me, what harm is it doing to me, as long as he doesn't subsitute porn for sex with me, and I know that we are satisfied with each other, I would rather know that he is looking at it rather than looking at it behind my back.

[princessmel]

What channel is he on?

[alliecat]

I love Dr. Phil too! I love it because he tells you how it is, he doesn't give you any bull****. My boyfriend hates watching him, so I don't get to all that often anymore.


xoxo


Allie

[luckistar2]

When I met up with my husband I was actually warned by his family that he was known for his porn collection.


We fight about it every once in a while but I have pretty much given up, after 6 years it doesn't bother me so much anymore. I made him throw out all of his videos when we moved in together. And occasionally I find magaiznes.


I guess it bothers me because I am a live three dimensional person...no need to look at a picture in a magazine.


Yes, he goes on the computer every once in a while but he knows that I will find out so he has given up on it.


When I find magazines I don't even pick a fight. I just say, "I found your porn. I threw it away." It is like a game now. ----Where can I hide it this time? [img]smileys/smilies_19.gif[/img]