Ok, I didn't want to have to do this post but I shall. I don't think any of you need it not really, you are not children but it's becoming a little difficult. I'm basically caught in the middle here. There are some people who feel victimised, and other people who feel they are just trying to help in a situation with a reality check.
Nobody here is trying to get at or pick on anybody else. I genuinely believe that those who post blunt advice have best interests at heart and if I didn't believe this then those posts would be removed. A difference of opinion doesn't mean anyone is getting at you personally,
That said the other side of the coin is could people PLEASE try to be a little sensitive when they post. Other people don't always want to hear what you have to say when it is presented in a certain style and then the GOOD advice gets lost.
If you have a problem with another forum member I urge you to PM them. I don't mean abuse of course [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]but just to say "maybe you are trying to help me but I cant respond to that, thank you anyway" or "Hey, so you seem to hate me, why is that?" lol Recently I posted something and a forum member questioned the wording, I reviewed it and replied and everyone was happy (I think lol)
Above all remember this is a support forum, but also remember that what you post has an impact. If you are blowing things up, or dramatising then expect someone to come along and calm that down because everyone who visits the site suffers from anxiety and what we read sticks with us. I haveclosed down topics on Bird Flu etc because of the panic they create.Realistic goals and answers are a positive thing. But also try and post what you have to say in the most sensitive way you can so that the other person is open to hearing it.
I'm not posting this at anyone or the other. I'm just sick of getting it from all sides everytime I log on. This place is meant to be a place of love and support, please can we try and keep it that way.