Brina, slow down, calm down. It was so hard to read your post--it truly reflected how worked up you are.
Has he actually v*?? I couldn't quite understand, does he live with your parents? Is that where your daughter stayed? If you weren't in the same room with him when he was s* than you probably won't catch it. Also, even if it is a sv, and even if you do catch it, it doesn't mean you will necessarily v*. I haven't v* (knock wood) in many years and believe me, I have had several sv's since then (just had one three weeks ago and ended up being tired with d*).
Just try and relax.I know it's hard.
<font color=BLUE>~Paula~</font>