i found this link the other day.
it was very wonderful to read.
it isnt about v*..
it is about retraining your mind in a general sense..
which can certainly be helpful for this phobia also.

<A href="http://www.holistic-&#111;;ns.htm" target="_blank">The Truth About Affirmations
</A>Affirmations are a way of tricking the subconscious into giving us what we want. This kind of mental trickery keeps many people stuck in the very states they are trying to escape. If it is true that what we resist persists, then affirmations can perpetuate the very things we are trying to eliminate.